The wedding outfits I mentioned in the previous post were released at the Paris Fashion Week on Tuesday. The dress, a flat hexagon that opens up into a complex, delicate form, is called Kide; here’s a photo and reportage

Which brings me to the title of the post. Today’s our wedding day.

Ilkka Suppanen, a founder of the acclaimed Snow Crash design collective, had earlier formulated an idea he called “a beautiful day” as a challenge to designers. It is a call to act on the future of a world deep in the grip of change that could wipe out much of what people everywhere hold dear. The wedding is part of Dai Fujiwara’s answer. He sees in it birth.

I think of the beautiful day notion simply in the context of relationships. We can make each day a beautiful one to those we love.

We’re living a time when it is radically easier for people to come together than it was just ten years ago – like with these leading designers’ collaboration around the wedding. This is no doubt a good thing. But there’s another side to the growing intensity of interaction. People are also dropping relationships on a whim. According to a study by Rutgers University, only 63% of American children grow up with both biological parents – the lowest figure in the Western world.

Happiness requires longetivity. That you stick around in a relationship. But sticking around is hard, because you’ve got to keep changing yourself to renew it. A wedding makes one face this fact, I think. There are other ways to face it too, of course. But that’s what this wedding and all the wonderful activity around it is really about: facing oneself without false presumptions, naked. Acknowledging that if love and happiness are what we desire, then making each day a beautiful one, that’s what it’s going to take.

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Pim
February 28th, 2008 at 7:35 pm (#)

Sounds like a beautiful day indeed, and what beautiful words you wrote about happiness and relationships.
Congratulations!

Paul Jacobson
February 28th, 2008 at 9:06 pm (#)

Congratulations Jyri and Ulla. This is very happy news and my wife and I wish you both great happiness and joy in your marriage.

Alper
February 29th, 2008 at 1:55 am (#)

Beautifully written, Jyri! My best wishes to you and yours.

Susanna
February 29th, 2008 at 2:05 am (#)

Onnittelut “kauniin paivan “ja kauniimman loppuelaman johdosta. :)

olli
February 29th, 2008 at 4:20 am (#)

onnea!

Peter Boersma
March 2nd, 2008 at 6:35 am (#)

What a lovely story about beautiful days in general and your in particular! May many beautiful days follow this one!

Julie, writer Surefirewealth.com
March 3rd, 2008 at 3:29 am (#)

I absolutely love weddings! But in all seriousness, what you say about happiness and relationships are true. Sometimes, you have to adjust yourself and your partner as well in order to achieve some sort of balance. Before my first relationship, I never really thought that things could get so complicated and that we would ever change. But if you’re open enough and understanding enough, you will realize that change is sometimes necessary.

Michael
May 7th, 2008 at 3:35 am (#)

Congratulations, and well said.
Though I don’t believe longevity is a correlate to happiness, or is necessarily essential in a relationship. Everything is ephemeral anyways, and that’s a beautiful truth.
My thoughts on this are very simple… that is not to have expectations of love, or of each other, but rather, ‘experiences’ of love and each other. Make every moment and experience be born from love, and you will not only be happy, but manifest happiness to all around you.

Sam
June 23rd, 2009 at 2:11 pm (#)

The links to the pictures and news article are broken now, Jyri. Any chance you could get the photos posted somewhere and link to them?

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